Monday, March 8, 2010

Experimental Advice

One of my favorite things to read in the paper besides the "comics" (because they're not really funny, are they?) is the advice column. I'd love to have an advice column some day. I have plenty of opinions on what people should do with their lives or how to solve their problems. So, if you have some questions you want me to answer, send them my way. If you don't have my email address, just leave me a comment and I'll email you back. If I get enough questions, I'll do a post with my advice.

Until then, I'll give you this one for free. This is something I've been chewing on for a while and now you can let me know what you think.

It's to your advantage to be friends with the kind of person you want to be. For example, if you want to be a wife, be friends with some wives. Once you get married, you will need other married friends, especially wives, to relate to, get advice from, and spend time with. If you want to be a mom someday, be friends with moms. You don't want to find yourself with a newborn all of a sudden with a bunch of single friends who have no clue about butt paste and reflux. If you want your kids to live to see their teens, find some seasoned moms with awesome teenagers and hang out with them.  Etcetera, etcetera.

Of course I don't mean that you should only be friends with this type of person, life is made rich by a variety of relationships. But it might do you some good to take inventory of your friend list, and see if there are people in your life who can walk with you through a season they've already been through, but is yet to come for you. If not, be intentional about making some new friends. It might be work, but consider it an investment in your future.

So, what do you think? Does this advice pass the common sense test? Has this proven true for you? Is there a better way to say it? Did I leave anything out? Will you leave a comment if I keep asking questions....?


  1. ha! butt paste and reflux! Words that might scare the heck out of some people! I love it ;)
    Here's one for ya Dear Anna:
    How do I teach my children to be salt and light in the world but still guard them from bad influence? I struggle with this often...

  2. Yes very common sense, my version, if you are pregnant with twins, join a twins group where you will meet people who have had them plus are going through the same things you are.
    Good one MomBrose!

  3. Very true! That's great advice. I do think that you shouldn't forget or neglect the friendships that are at the other end of the spectrum in life. Having both makes of great balance. For example, I don't know what I'd do without all my friends that are moms, but sometimes I just need to be me, a 28 year old girl who likes to dress up and go out for a glass for a glass of wine and a pedicure and talk about dreams and fashion and...giggle. After that, I like to have coffee with one of our mentors who have the best teenagers ever. So, my take is to keep in touch with all sorts of friends.


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